Because Boys Deserve Love Songs, Two. A PLAYLIST.

Yesterday was The Boy and my first anniversary! Yay us! We celebrated by recreating our first date, and it was a wonderful evening.

Me and The Boy. I can't even take how cute we are. :)

Me and The Boy. I can’t even take how cute we are. 🙂

And it got me thinking about how amazing he is, which got me thinking about my Valentine’s Day post “Because Boys Deserve Love Songs, Too,” which continues to be one of my most popular posts to date! So I thought that, in honor of my amazing partner in crime, I would do a sequel to that post appropriately titled: Because Boys Deserve Love Songs, Two.

The first song, however, is just a duet that reminds me of my relationship with The Boy. 🙂 


The Moldy Peaches – ANYONE ELSE BUT YOU

“We both have shiny, happy fits of rage. You want more fans, I want more stage. I don’t see what anyone can see in anyone else but you.” Yup. Pretty much. 🙂

And now for the guy-focused love songs you’re here for! And remember that my criteria for this is to pick songs that praise men for being awesome partners without talking about what they’re not or what they don’t have. And, as always, if you have suggestions for songs that fit the bill, leave them in the comments below! Here we go…


Because our male love interests sometimes need to be reassured that they’re pretty. 🙂

Liz Phair – ROCK ME

Speaking as a woman dating a younger man…young guys DO rule! 🙂 Thank you, Liz Phair, for capturing this truth.

Paula Cole – FEELIN’ LOVE

Because that special guy should know just how much he’s turning you on. Um…this song is hot. 🙂


Another 1990’s track about a special guy turning the narrator on. Hell yeah! Women have sex drives! And good men pay attention to those. 🙂


I love, love, love the way that this song captures that moment when you know you want someone to kiss/touch you. 🙂 


Men are more than sex objects, you guys! 🙂 They’re actually people. With feelings. In all seriousness, men that know how to give you their time, who share their vulnerability with you, who know you better than you know yourself, who keep you excited, and treat you well are priceless, and should be told when they’re getting it right!

Taylor Swift – MINE

I love the story that Swift tells in this song, talking about love going through good times and bad times and how problems don’t send this guy running. 

Julie Delpy – A WALTZ FOR A NIGHT 

I just love the bravery of this moment in the film, Before Sunrise. Singing a song like this to the the guy who inspired it ten years after the fact? 🙂 Awesomeness. 

Salt N’ Pepa, featuring En Vogue – WHATTA MAN

The best song ever about a guy being The Whole Package. 🙂

Rachael Yamagata – 1963

Such a sweet, carefree, ebullient love song!  

Miley Cyrus – SEE YOU AGAIN

Here’s a throwback to the days of Hannah Montana, and it’s the only Miley Cyrus song I ever liked from that era of her career. I love how it captures the nervousness about being around your crush. It’s unlike anything else. 

Well, that’s it for this installment of Because Boys Deserve Love Songs! (I didn’t even realize this would be a thing until today.) If you have a special man in your life who does all the right things, tell him so! Hell, no matter how you identify or who you’re dating/married to/sleeping with, good relationship behavior should be rewarded and celebrated!

And to The Boy, I say: Happy First Day of Our Second Year Together. I love you.

SONG OF THE DAY: “Bullet With Butterfly Wings” – Smashing Pumpkins

Song: “Bullet With Butterfly Wings”

Performed by: Smashing Pumpkins

Album: Mellon Collie and the Infinite Sadness (1995)

Because it’s “Throwback Thursday” and nothing says “throwback” like music you listened to when you were in high school.

Also, I’ve been having the feeling lately that just when things are starting to go well (and there have been some good things happening lately), a whole bunch of crap happens to knock you back down again, and it’s sometimes difficult to feel like the strides you’re making are actually making any difference at all.

Despite all my rage, I’m still just a rat in a cage, indeed. 🙂

Anyway, today’s Song Of the Day is “Bullet With Butterfly Wings” by Smashing Pumpkins. Enjoy!


SONG OF THE DAY: “Slide” – Dido

Song: “Slide”

Performed by: Dido

Album: No Angel (1999)

It is the best of times, it is the worst of times. Dickens knew what was up. Last week, I did an amazing job of structuring my week now that I’m working mostly from home to get both day job stuff and writing stuff done, and I even made time during the day for “me time” – time to read, time to meditate. And then…I fell behind. Sunday and yesterday were all over the place, and the calming equilibrium I found seemed to have been frittered away and replaced with my usual panicked inertia. I was a deer in headlights again.

I have to remind myself that I’m not going to get it right every single day, but that 1) it’s OK, and 2) that’s no reason to give up entirely. Today is the one day a week where I have to leave my apartment for a day job, so I’m going to do that, after which, I’ll get back on the productivity horse tomorrow and get back to the structured day I’ve created for myself that I’ve realized that I really, really need in order to be at my best.

And because sometimes we all need a comforting talking-to, today’s Song of the Day is “Slide” by Dido from her debut album, No Angel. Enjoy! And don’t be so hard on yourselves today. 🙂


NSFW SONG OF THE DAY: “Put It In Your Mouth” – Akinyele

Song: “Put It In Your Mouth”

Performed by: Akinyele

Album: Put It In Your Mouth EP (1996)

Last night, I went to an amazing class on oral sex at The Pleasure Chest L.A. called “Suck It, Lick It, Love It with Sex Nerd Sandra and Larkin.” Sandra and Larkin were wonderful teachers and they created a safe space where people could ask whatever they wanted, cleared up a lot of people’s misconceptions about how to give and receive pleasure, and provided all sorts of great info and tips. If you have a chance to listen to Sandra’s Nerdist podcast, give it a whirl – she’s a great teacher, and hilarious to boot!

And I’m gonna have oodles of fun practicing the new tips I learned! Ahem…

Anwyay, today’s Song of the Day is “Put It In Your Mouth” by Akinyele. It’s totally NSFW – but it’s totally safe for re-living 90s hip-hop. 🙂


SONG OF THE DAY: “Slam” – Onyx

Song: “Slam”

Performed by: Onyx

Album: Bacdafucup (1993)

Remember when I said I was looking up 90s hip-hop on YouTube the other night? Well, this was the song that started it all. I remembered it, and The Boy didn’t, and that just broke my heart. 🙂

Here is one of the songs that defined my eighth grade experience. Today’s Song of the Day is “Slam” by Onyx. Enjoy! Duh-duh-duh, duh-duh-duh…. 😉




THROWBACK THURSDAY: Remember the Time When I Loved Ralph Fiennes SO MUCH?

My side of my freshman year dorm room - 1997.

My side of my freshman year dorm room – 1998.

So, from the time I was a sophomore in high school, until I was about a junior in college, I was absolutely OBSESSED with Ralph Fiennes. 🙂 It all started with a little movie called Quiz Show. My brother had rented it for a class he was teaching on morality (he’s a high school religion teacher), I watched it with him, and I immediately became infatuated with the dude playing Charles Van Doren. I was such a little Anglophile in high school, and Ralph Fiennes was the non-bumbling epitome of hot Britishness in 1995 (for the bumbling version, see: Hugh Grant). When I went to school the week after I saw Quiz Show, my English teacher raved to us about a wonderful Broadway production of Hamlet that she’d just seen starring Ralph Fiennes in the title role. What?! He’s playing Hamlet?! I thought. Of course, the run was sold out…and I was a broke high school student, so a) affording it, and b) getting into Manhattan from Long Island were problems.

Then, I saw Schindler’s List for the first time on VHS, and couldn’t believe that the same actor who’d played crisp, clean Charles Van Doren played a bloated, Nazi, embodiment of evil. I was hooked, and this man was a genius.

I used to spend New Years Eves with my sister in her apartment when I was in late high school and early college, because I was too young to go out on the town, and her husband was a cop who worked the overnight shift. It was always a great time and those holidays make up some of my favorite memories with my sister…but one of THE best memories was the New Year’s Eve that we went to see The English Patient in the movie theater.

Yes, when I was a high school senior, I saw The English Patient in the movie theater AND LOVED IT. What’s more, I looooooved Ralph Fiennes as Count Almasy.

As we were watching it, there was an elderly couple behind us who wouldn’t stop talking, which would’ve been annoying if they weren’t so hilarious to listen to. The guy kept confusing Juliette Binoche with every other J-named actress in the world (“Is that Julia Roberts? No! It’s Julianna Marguelies.” “She doesn’t do movies.” “Oh, you’re right – it’s Julia Ormond!”), and he couldn’t wrap his head around the flashback device used in the film until about halfway through when he blurted out “Oh! I get it! The old guy is the young guy!” (Actually, the “old guy” is actually a burned guy, but whatever. Points for trying, dude.)

To this day, “Oh! The old guy is the young guy!” is Jusino Sister shorthand for figuring out something really, really obvious. 🙂

Anyway, my flame of desire burned bright for Ralph Fiennes until it was summarily replaced by an actor named Liev Schreiber, whom I’d heard was in the Scream movies, but with whom I fell in love after seeing him in a 2001 production of Hamlet in the Public Theater in the title role, eventually going back and watching every movie of his I missed, and never missing everything he did after that. I nearly made my friend Dayna accompany me in trying to follow him home after a performance of Hamlet…but that’s an embarrassing stalker story for another day.

There’s just something about hot guys playing Hamlet in tight black pants, knawwamean?

Anyway, my late teens were pretty much defined by my love of Ralph Fiennes, which you can see in these photos of my freshman dorm room at NYU, which was pretty much a shrine to Fiennes, particularly The English Patient, save for some milk ads, which I also really liked collecting for some reason.

And yes, I was super-happy when he was cast as Voldemort.

I’m such a fucking weirdo.

My desk, my Winnie the Pooh laundry bag, and the English Patient cut-out I got from a Blockbuster video - 1998

My desk, my Winnie the Pooh laundry bag, my Coke problem, and the English Patient cut-out I got from a Blockbuster video – 1998